![]() ![]() Welcome to the real world where the demons of books and movies are in fact a sad reality that were previously dusted under the red rug named taboo. I feel no matter what I do, I'll fail miserably, and cause my life to become even more of a failure than it currently seems to be. My parents will not stop asking me what happened, what's the reason, and wont break anything off until they hear the reason.Īnd now im so shocked and scared of taking the next step, any step. More impossible than me trying to break off my relationship without telling the truth. I tried to tell him to pretend that he likes someone else but for some reason that is impossible. He also doesn't want to break it off himself because he has no reason to. My biggest issue is how to break off the marriage, with such less time left, after a year of nikah? How do I tell my parents the reason? He has clearly said he will deny if I tell anyone but that I am free to not marry him, that he's not forcing anything on me except my silence about his lifestyle. I can't imagine my life with such a partner or lifestyle. My world is shattering around me because I'm not this person, I'm not into this stuff, not only is it off religion, but even morally and ethically it is just like cheating, and it's disgusting, and it is dangerous. ![]() But now I don't know what I know right and what I just believe because I took it for granted that life is supposed to be normal and these things happen in books and movies and to other people. Never have I met any of his friends that give me any such vibes, if I failed to get any from him due to relationship bias, I should have at least gotten them from his friends right? Never have I ever seen him smoke or drink - as far as I knew he doesn't indulge in any of those things. How could I? This is the first time I'm hearing of any of this, let alone in a context that I'm the centre of! We never went on dates until after our nikah, never once did he do anything that made me uncomfortable, which means that despite being in his nikah, we hardly ever held hands or rested our heads on each other's shoulders and that is it. He even says that he's taken aback that he even has to lay this all out for me, because for him, it's revelation that I had no idea about any of this, and about his lifestyle and preferences. He considers having told me as permission enough. But he wouldn't stop just because I'm not into it. He says he is open to exploring sexuality, and he has no issues if I want to join him too and in fact, he'd love it. I'm still shaking as my hands are typing this. He mentioned it so casually it took me a full ten minutes to register what he was even talking about, and then when it dawned on me that he thought I'd 'be cool with it', I was so shocked and disgusted that I literally jumped off my seat and away from him, trembling. I'm beyond disgusted and shocked and hurt. He's well educated and now settled enough to keep a wife happy, responsible, good looking - just about everything one would look for in any average husband-to-be.īut my world crashed the day I found out he is into swinging / wife swapping. Just that we met politely and had fun hanging out when we did, which was whenever our parents met or we all met at a mutual daawat (feast) or some event. We got along well, though we couldn't be categorised as best friends or anything. But my husband and I first came into contact when they moved to my city, and our parents and families started hanging out more. Our parents are friends with each other since a long time. My husband and I have known each other since our early teens. I have very less time to decide and take action. I got married without rukhsati last year, and the rukhsati is planned for this December. Its nature is such that I didn't even know these things exist. ![]() The issue I have is the one I never imagined I would ever have to face. It seems like you've come in my life at just the moment I needed someone the most. ![]()
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